Don’t you love it when you commit to a goal, and then on the way toward its attainment you decide it’s either too ambitious or too painful to keep actively pursuing? Still wanting it isn’t the issue, but maintaining your pace toward it definitely can be.
This tension can feel like programming your GPS (or Google maps app), and then riding the brakes or dragging your heels along the entire route. “Actually, I think I’ll just pay the cab in advance, exit the car and hold on to the bumper with my teeth. I’ll still end up heading in the direction of my goal, but wow, this is pretty Yabba-Dabba-Damn-Painful.”
It’s clearly not ideal, so why do we do this?
We recognize at a fundamental level that we need to grow and/or change, so we set the goal to alter our course of action. This is usually followed by a quick rush of excitement, because the new goal is so clear, and so brilliant that the world will surely celebrate our legend once it’s accomplished.
But then come the distractions, the hurdles, or the straight-up haters that desperately try to thwart our dreams. How dare they?
Obviously we’re manifesting these apparitions to test our resolve, but once they show up in droves we can lose focus and steam.
My buddy Ralph has that yard in the neighborhood every man wants. The dude’s flower baskets are abundant, thriving, and glorious. Sure he spends a lot of money on annuals and water, but what’s his secret power?
He nurtures the desired outcome, every day. He relentlessly polishes and protects his dream. No wonder it thrives. No wonder other manly-ass men covet another dude’s flower baskets. No wonder so many cars slow roll past their house every evening throughout the summer.
So writing (and rewriting) our desired outcome isn’t always enough, because the journey or path alters the outcome itself. We have to continually refine & nurture the desired outcome based on the latest information, market feedback, or tweaks in our trajectory.
Who wouldn’t want to take the most direct, traffic-free route? When we’re out on the ground though, it can look more like a labyrinth or obstacle course. So the point isn’t to bypass every test of our resolve, it’s to prevent them in some cases, and confront and conquer them in others.
We’ll not only get to that next level. We’ll get there with a whole new suite of tools and skills we picked up along the way.
Dust off your biggest dream and polish that sucker up. Remind yourself why you want it so badly. Remind yourself why it belongs to you. Tend to it. Protect it. Take some form of action on it every single day.
Head out into your week knowing that it is very much alive within you and no one is capable of taking it away.