As part of the launch of The New Sobriety program this week, I thought it would be fun to take an inventory of what has changed in my life since giving up The Drinks.
Let me be clear that life isn’t always roses just because you quit booze. Life on earth is still pretty complex and difficult at times. My goal is to show you that if I can do it, quite literally anybody can.
But more important than whether to drink or not, is what could potentially be waiting for us on the other side of habitual choices, open bars, and endless reasons to consume. What blew me away as I went through this process, was how shifting gears away from drinking opened up much larger doors of possibility.
Sure, I could have done many of these things while still drinking in moderation. But I can’t say I would’ve enjoyed them as deeply, or have been able to juggle them as well.
1. My work and career
3. Confidence to conquer other addictions
4. My marriage and family life
5. Our home
6. Songwriting & perfectionism
I should probably mention that my drinking self would’ve never had the nuts to publish a 12,000 word manifesto on inspired living, or any of the programs I’ve launched.
8. More joy / Less shame
9. Overall energy level
11. Meditation practice
12. Not taking myself so damn seriously
Sure, I still had a pretty crazy sense of humor. But I would often seethe beneath the surface. I’d often hide my pain and discomfort beneath some bullshit perma-grin mask. “There are no weeds in my garden!”
Not drinking has forced me to use my humor in much healthier, authentic ways. It has also allowed me to be much more vulnerable when I’m in pain. There’s just so fewer places to hide. This is obviously painful at first.
But once we’re comfortable with our new minimal landscape, we can operate as we’re meant to: Pared down. Sharp-eyed. Awake.
We can also belly-laugh at our complete stupidity, or at the folly of others. Cuz seriously, this giant Clown Car is so entertaining.
What have you noticed about drinking versus not drinking? I’d love to compare notes below.
Have you checked out The New Sobriety?